Category Archives: Spirituality

Change of Fate?

Every 3rd Saturday of the month I run the Family Learners Minyan (prayer space) & Torah study, as part of our religious school program  at Mishkon Tephilo in Venice Beach. Here parents join their 2nd-3rd grade children, and we dialogue, experience and learn prayers together, learn some Torah, then we join the community for a lovely kiddush after.

This week was parshat Vayishlakh, where we learned about Jacob having to face his brother Esau for the first time in 20 years after Jacob “stole” Esau’s birthright. First we studied the lyrics to The Song for Parshat Vayishlakh (click here to listen)

Song for Parshat Vayishlach

 

Yaakov returned to the promised land
With children, wives and riches grand
Yaakov’s fear of Esav was so strong
Esav was angry for so long

Chorus: Vayishlach Yaakov Malochim L’fonov
And Yaakov sent messengers to Esav

Esav was coming with four hundred men
Yaakov davened to Hashem
For milchama we must prepare
He told his family, “Have no fear.”

Chorus.

With Esav’s Malach, Yaakov had a fight
It lasted throughout the night
Yaakov won, the malach did fall
Yaakov’s name was changed to Yisroel

After we read through the song and translated all the Hebrew, we were ready to sing the catchy, klezmer song. What a fun way to learn about the parsha!
Then we turned to a little Talmud (Rabbinic Literature) for us all to ponder over.

And Rabbi Isaac said [further]:  Four things cancel the decree against (fate of) a person, and they are: charity, crying out [in prayer], changing one’s name, and changing one’s conduct.

Talmud, Rosh Hashanah 16b

But what ended up happening? Did Esau take revenge? Or is it possible that Jacob changed his fate? When we look back at our story, we find that Jacob not only cried at to God in prayer, but his name was changed – AND he changed his conduct (fear/no fear) – These are most of the ingredients, that according to Rabbi Isaac of the Talmud, Jacob was able to change his destiny – and in the end, his brother met him with love – and even a kiss! What a beautiful reminder that change really is possible…and that it might actually be in our own hands!
Our wonderful service concluded with a Shehekhiyau blessing, when a mother whom I had asked to open the arc to return the Torah, announced to us all that she had never done that before in her life.  It was such a profound moment, watching an orthodox-raised mother, trying to teach her own daughter Judaism in a non-traditional world – walked up proudly, open the arc (for the first time ever in her life) and cried beautiful tears of joy and awe. I stopped the entire community in our tracks and announced that this was the perfect time for a blessing over a special moment in time. Together we sang words of gratitude to our Creator for bringing this moment of time to existence.  She held the Torah as we sang Eitz Chayim He, (It is a Tree of Life), then carefully placed it back in its spot inside the arc, closing it softly. She had just been transformed, and we all were so blessed to have witnessed it.
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Safety & Prayer

 

When we pray, we become vulnerable.  It is as if we are spilling out our every bits…. like emptying our purse or backpack. Whatever we are carrying in that moment, we can unleash to the Mighty Creator and hand these burdens over.  We are not designed to carry worries, fears, pains….these are the things that actually break us down (physically, spiritually and emotionally), so why do we continue to carry them anyhow?

Prayer is a powerful tool.  As stated above, it is a time to empty ourselves. What are we harboring that is causing us to disconnect with our TRUE SELVES?

What is our TRUE SELF?

We are created from a spark of light. We are birthed through the friction of the universe and awakened by the glory of Love.  Our true identity is that of joy, inspiration, happiness and liberation.  If we do no know these things NATURALLY within ourselves, this is a perfect opportunity to take a look at our childhood. What we found to be “normal” when we were younger, creates the conditions for who we are as adults.  But, we must remember, that just because it’s “what we are used to”, does not always mean it is alignment with our own inner peace and joy.

Finding our true selves requires safety.

Safety means we are in a place that is comfortable, relaxed and at peace.  We might have to go outside of our homes to find this.  This can be in nature somewhere or at a best friend’s house who never offers judgment or expectations of or on us.  When we are then alone and around those we love, can you feel safe to be YOU?  Can you share your feelings, thoughts, dreams….out in the open without concern of what others may say?  Creating a safe environment for prayer and spiritual growth is vital.  Then, when we know where our safe place is, we can bring that feeling into places that might not offer the same support.  Through this experience, we learn to begin to SEE those harmful and/or non supportive parts of our lives, and can slowly begin to step out of them.

May we all feel SAFE in our skin, to pray, love, dream and do!

Love,

Aviva